Sunday, May 1, 2011

What's Most Important To You???


First, I have to make an apology to my Brilliant Husband of almost 25 years.  (Hangs head in shame.)  During the A-Z Challenge, I honored him with  my "D" post.  I called him dependable, determined, diligent and devoted.  To my surprise all he saw was that he got a "D."  So I'd like amend his letter grade to an "A."  My Brilliant Hubby is awesome, attentive, adventurous, affectionate, ambitious, and appreciative.  (Hopefully, this will get me out of the doghouse.)

What is the most important trait you want to see in a friend?  What about in your children's friends?  Or if you are a cat, your playmates? 

What about when you were little, what was the most important quality for a friend to have then?


Thanks to all my old and new lovely bloggy friends for listening to me talking about friendship for the whole month of April!

37 comments:

  1. I think my fav might be Trust. Have a great Sunday!!!

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  2. Awwww lovely Sharon K Mayhew!!! I hope you are out of the doghouse now! :-)

    Charlie doesn't like other kitty friends!!! Which is so embarassing cos there are a couple of adorable kitties here who don't visit me anymore cos he chased them away!!! LOL! He does like humans who spoil him though, especially next door!

    Take care
    x

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  3. Important trait in a friend....honesty. Is he happy with his "A" now. They are really are so simple aren't they?

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  4. Important traits in a friend for me is...someone who embraces me for both my strenghts and weaknesses. Someone who listens and allows me to listen to them.

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  5. Sincerity. My first marriage taught me that one.

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  6. I'm glad my hubby (who is truly my best friend) has an excellent sense of humour, patients, and forgiveness. I'm very lucky!!

    Glad you gave your hubby an 'A'! :)
    xo Catherine

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  7. hi miss sharon! when i was a little kid the best thing in friends was sharing stuff like toys and candy. now for me the best is friends thats honest and i could trust and could trust me. theres lots of other stuff right off your a-z post. im glad mr hubby let you out of that dog house. :)
    ...hugs from lenny

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  8. The most important trait of a friend (and husband) is not taking things the wrong way! Everyone is sooooo sensitive and defensive! You can joke with a true friend and they joke back with you - maybe it's just my demented way but I love my friends who get me =)
    great meeting you!

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  9. Hi Sharon,
    Slightly out of kilter with your question, but what's important to me is that the whole 'A to Z Blogging Challenge' is finally over and my blogging friends, like you, my dear friend, get back to a regular routine.
    Take very good care, Gary :)

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  10. Sharon, we did it! Congratulations! I have an award for you!!

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  11. I loved your theme for the month - it was awesome! :)

    Hope hubby's happy with his A grade now! Picking one attribute is tough - but I think kindness is probably most important to me. :)

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  12. Now: the most important is honesty/integrity… absolutely number one for me.

    Then: as a child, the most important one would be: fun… they have to be fun to be around.

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  13. hehehe aw men can be such big babies at times. :)

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    then let me follow u,, it'll be valuable

    visit please..

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  15. LOL! Husbands never seem to see our intentions, eh? :)

    Thereness is important to me. Just ... being there. In good and bad, in person, in email... however they can be.

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  16. BWAHAHAHA!! Oh this post made my day. My hubby would have reacted the same way, lol!

    Angela @ The Bookshelf Muse

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  17. I have to be able to trust a friend, and they have to be reliable. I suppose when I was younger, they just had to be nice to me. :)

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  18. Then and now, it's always been loyalty - not that they will always agree with me, but that they will always be my friend, through thick and thin. :) p.s. the hubs is cute!

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  19. Your husband sounds awesome! And congrats on making it through the alphabet.

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  20. Yay for A+ hubbies!
    When I look at my children's friends, I want to see friends that help them make good choices, friends that are smiling and having fun, friends that truly enjoy each other. Thankfully I really enjoy my kids' friends. But there are one or two that I wish would find someone else to call five times a day even when I've told her one call per day (a rather noncompliant friend of my 8yo daughters!). :)

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  21. How about loyal? :D

    Your hubby sounds awesome.

    Wow, I can't believe the ABCs are finished. Congrats on doing such a great job. You must be exhausted. ;)

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  22. Ah! I love the A.

    I think the best trait is trust. Someone I can trust and share confidence in for both me and someone else.

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  23. When I was a kid I wanted people to be nice, but as I matured I realized that a good friend doesn't have to always be nice, but they should be honest even when it hurts. Now what I want is dependability--someone I can count on and trust.

    Lee
    Tossing It Out

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  24. Hey Sharon...Marley here..the most important trait in a cat is the ability to play. My sisters are so mean to me. Whenever I want to play they Hiss and Swat at me. They never want to play. Now my brother Jude he's different. He loves to play with me. He lets me jump on his back and he even lets me bite on his neck. Why he hisses at me I don't understand. He acts like he likes me.
    I bet if my friend Mandu was here..I bet he would play with me all the time. Mandu is my best buddy and he's goodlooking like me too.

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  25. There are so many, but loyalty and honest have to be two of my top five. And that means gentle honesty even when it's going to hurt, but with the intent on helping and making me a better person (and yes, writer.) :)

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  26. Sounds like our husbands would get along great! :) I would have been in the doghouse, too.

    Love me no matter what and support me when I'm down. Honest. Dependable. So many things! Fortunately, there are a lot of good people out there. :)

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  27. Awwww, I love this post. You're such a loving wife. How sweet of you to rewrite him into your blog with an A!

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  28. Lovely tribute.
    A is better than D

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  29. Your poor hubs. How nice of you to give him an A.

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  30. It is great that you are giving your husband an "A". I would too. Right now I am showing a little tough love. I have to discipline him with exercise and eating habits.
    I would like to see honesty and integrity in a friend. I believe that once we have a friend we
    should not mess with the talk they have with us.
    As a kid I had the same views about friendship except that I use to call breach of integrity "Tattling".

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  31. Haha, hope your tactic to get yourself out of the doghouse has worked, Sharon?

    For me a friend is someone who's there when you need them the most, not when they can spare the time.

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  32. The single most important trait?

    Love.

    Love for those around them (including me).

    When they've got that covered, everything else falls in place.

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  33. Nice of you to give your hubby an A, although the D attributes you gave him were great ones too! I've loved your friendship posts and think you did a marvelous job with them!

    All of the traits that have been mentioned are good, but to me the most important is love.

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  34. It's nice of you to devote blog posts to your husband. I hope the upgrade to "A" does get you back on his good side :)

    I agree with Brian, in that trust is important for friends to have between each other at all ages. Acceptance is another important trait that I believe friends should have because everyone has different personalities and likes different things so a good friend would not expect us to be the exact same way that they are.

    I'm talking about basic forms of acceptance, though, like, I would want a friend to accept the fact that I don't like wearing lots of clothes with flowers on them, even if she does, lol, and in turn, I will accept the fact that she does not like watching CSI: Miami like I do and instead, she prefers to watch Dancing with the Stars. I can understand and accept the different and still want to be your friend.

    Now, I do believe that we all should have standards for friends and I believe that we do not have to accept friendship with just anybody, you know, lol. For example, just for the sake of this topic, let's say I would not accept a friend who was a thief or murderer and in turn, I should not expect someone to be my friend if I was full of hatred or if I was a bully or animal abuser, etc. you know?! You get my drift, I'm sure!

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  35. Sharon, you're awesomesauce still! The most important quality in a friend when I was a little girl was loyalty. It hurt me when kids would be nice to me one minute and then sneer me the next. When I think about it, I wonder if I was that bad? lol...

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  36. Funny!
    The traits I admire most are kindness and loyalty. And a good sense of humor is close behind!

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  37. Hi Sharon .. hubby deserves his awesome post .. so pleased he's upgraded from a D to an A .. appalling examiner, just so glad the resubmission had a few grades added! Cheers Hilary

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