Wednesday, January 6, 2016

ISWG--Looking For Love? Looking For Fiscal Responsibility? (I've got some answers to help you find a happier you in 2016.)


 Yay! It's the first Wednesday of the month and it's time for the Insecure Writer's Support Group posts. If you haven't heard of the group, pop over to the blog and check it out, then check out the Facebook group. It's a great group full of supportive people including our leader Alex J. Cavanaugh. Who continues to motivate us even in his busy published life.

My IWSG post today will hopefully help you become more happy and loved and financially stable in 2016.


I don't often rant about a particular book, BUT this is the best life changing book I've read EVER! The title makes you think it's only for people in love, but it can help you understand all the people you know better. I've been married for almost 30 years and reading this book showed me how to communicate and express love better to my husband and my adult daughter. If you are in a relationship, any kind of relationship....husbands & wives...husbands & husbands...wives & wives...boyfriend & girlfriend...parent & child...best friends... boss & employee....any relationship can benefit from reading and studying this book. I had so many OMG moments as I read it.

Basically, we all have a language of love. Some people need quality time, others need gifts, others need their loved one to do things for them, and others need to have a physical relationship, and others need words of affirmation to feel loved.

If you were driving a car and the gas tank was empty, the car would not run. Well, relationships are the same...If your love "tank" is empty you won't work and your relationship will go stale and possibly end. So you need to find a way to fill up your "loved one's" love tank. This book will show you how to do it. (I did want to edit it because there are a lot of technical things that made me cringe.) 

I think this book is so amazing I bought two extra copies to give as Christmas presents. It's an easy read, it probably only took me three hours to read it. But I'm going to read it again and work on finding out what love language other people who are important to me have. It will make me a better wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend and more. 

I HIGHLY recommend you read The Five Love Languages this year it will help you improve all your relationships, if you put in the time and attention.


I've been listening to Dave Ramsey for years. If you want to get your finances in order you might want to start listening to his FREE podcasts. We've been living by his philosophies for many years, even before we knew about his programs or podcasts. When you grow up poor you want stuff, right? When you are intelligent you want to further your education, right? So you do things...borrowing money, buying things on credit because you want them, because you deserve them...you are working hard at school...It's hard to see your friends who didn't go to school working and making money...so you buy on credit.  Then you graduate with credit card debt and student loans that have to be paid back. (This is my story.) But even before we heard of Dave we set a goal of paying off all our debts as fast as possible. We started with the small bills, once they were gone we went to the next biggest bill until all of our student debt was gone. (We did all of that without Dave.)

Dave teaches you to become debt free....YOU HEARD ME...Debt free. Living in your own means is hard (unless you are wealthy), but when you do that and become debt free you will start to acquire wealth, if you make good choices.

Once you are debt free, you can be more generous than you ever thought possible and you will sleep  without worries.

I URGE you to download and listen to a few of Dave's podcasts. If you are ready to listen and to become debt free he can guide you.

In 2016, I want you to learn how to have a full tank of love and a big pile of money saved up because you are listening to Dave and getting debt free.

Happy New Year My Friends!

Monday, December 14, 2015

And An Angel Is Born...Kissed By An Angel's book birthday


It's a special day when a book is born, not just for the writer or the reader, or the family and friends of the writer...it's the day when someones words and thoughts are preserved forever.

Kissed By An Angel is more than just an anthology filled with amazing stories about children with special abilities...it's a book put together by an amazing group of women all in the name of love and hope.


Robyn Campbell's son Christopher has Sturge-Weber Syndrome. You can pop over to the Sturge-Weber Foundation site to learn a lot more than I can ever explain to you.  The thing you automatically see when you meet someone with Sturge-Weber Syndrome is what is commonly called a port-wine stain, a dark red coloring over one part of their face, but that's just what is happening on the outside. On the inside lots of terrifying things are going on. Once Christopher had a headache for 18 months! I can't imagine the pain he was in and the pain Robyn was in watching him. There was nothing doctors could do to help. A lot of praying was going on across the world for Christopher during that time. He has seizures constantly.

Imagine if this was your child. So...

This amazing group of writers ( Robyn Campbell, Lynn Kelley, Yvette Carol, Theresa Milstein, Cheryl Secomb, Catherine Johnson, Suzy Levinson, Erik Weibel, Hope Lim, Vivian Kirkfield, Ellen Leventhal) got together and wrote a book with the proceeds going to the Sturge-Weber Foundation. Perhaps, if enough awareness is it there about the suffering children and people who have this syndrome go through it will eventually lead to a cure.

Please take a moment and think about all the charity donations you make. Perhaps a book purchase, a Facebook post, and a tweet to encourage others to buy Kissed By An Angel will bring up awareness of Sturgis-Weber Syndrome and help children and families affected by this disease.

 To purchase Kissed By An Angel
Purchase a copy of Kissed By An Angel

Please consider buying a copy and sharing it with someone for Christmas.



Wednesday, November 4, 2015

IWSG--LIFTING EACH OTHER UP!

Insecure Writer's Support Group...Lifting Each Other Up!


Yay! It's the first Wednesday of the month and it's time for the Insecure Writer's Support Group posts. If you haven't heard of the group, pop over to the blog and check it out, then check out the Facebook group. It's a great group full of supportive people including our leader Alex J. Cavanaugh. Who continues to motivate us even in his busy published life.


We've even put together an anthology packed full of helpful hints about the publishing industry. It's available on Amazonfor the amazingly low price... of free! All you have to do is download it on your kindle app. (I'm in there, talking about editing.)

When I think about our little writing community I think about how so many people have helped life me up both professionally and personally. Today, I would like you to help me lift up someone who has had a pretty rough year. If you know him well, you know it's been more than a year, but I want to focus on that sunshine and wisdom we have been missing for the past year. 
If you don't know Lenny Lee or have somehow forgotten him, he over the last five years has brought joy and wisdom that no adult could bring to so many of us. (He turned 15 on October 20th.) Many of us have kept up with him via phone calls, emails and dare I say it snail mail while he has been down. He calls me his Blom...Blog Mom. I take this role seriously. My blon needs our encouragement to get back to blogging and finding the fulfillment he has lost over this past year.  He is basically housebound between his Leukemia, his knee replacement, and the loss of his well known Jamaican author Uncle Tony. We need to reach out to him and get him back in cyberspace with us. I don't know about you, but I miss seeing his wise and happy posts on peoples' blogs.

What I'm hoping is that even though he doesn't have a new post up on his blog, you could instead of leaving a post on my blog you could hop over to his blog and tell him you miss him and hope he starts blogging soon. He needs us and we need him. He makes our writing community a better place.

So PLEASE, hop over to Lenny's World and say something to encourage him to come back to blogworld.
If you do I will give you a cyberhug!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart! <3 span="">

Wednesday, October 7, 2015

IWSG... Feeling insecure!


Insecure Writer's Support Group...What is holding you back?


Yay! It's the first Wednesday of the month and it's time for the Insecure Writer's Support Group posts. If you haven't heard of the group, pop over to the blog and check it out, then check out the Facebook group. It's a great group full of supportive people including our leader Alex J. Cavanaugh. Who continues to motivate us even in his busy published life.


We've even put together an anthology packed full of helpful hints about the publishing industry. It's available on Amazonfor the amazingly low price... of free! All you have to do is download it on your kindle app. (I'm in there, talking about editing.}

Usually I'm pretty confident about my writing, my knowledge about the industry and my abilities to edit for others, but a couple weeks ago I went to the SCBWI MO conference and I wanted to shrivel up and hide in a corner. The night before the conference I went to a critique group and felt great about my suggestions for the other writers and about the feedback they gave me on my picture book manuscript. You would think that would boost my confidence. The break out sessions were great. I interacted with the agents that were there several times during the course of the day. You would think that would make me feel good, but instead as the day went on I got more and more shriveled up feeling. I hadn't been to a conference for the last several years. Perhaps that was eating at me. I did the hands on activities with the editors and agents at the last presentation. My middle grade novel seemed to meet most of the guidelines they were showing us. My entry in the first five lines read a loud got mixed reviews, but one of the agents said she would read on and she was open to historical fiction. You'd think I would be high fiving myself, but instead I felt awkward and uncomfortable. Towards the end of the conference I ran into an old friend and she invited me to join her critique group. She introduced me to several members of the group. I finally stopped shivering inside, but on the drive home that feeling emerged again. I needed a hug. I got a couple when I got home. Then I was sick for a week. UGH!

Yesterday, I turned on my computer and finished critiquing/editing a Young Adult manuscript. I had no doubts about my skills. 

Tonight, I go to my first critique group meeting with my old friend. Frankly, I'm nervous. 

Do you ever feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster? 
(Please forgive my overuse of the word "that" in this post.)

Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Dying To Be Heard

DYING TO BE HEARD....


I don't know about you, but I've lost a family member to Mesothelioma. I was very young and had no idea what it was or how he got it. I recently came across Heather Von St. James who which linked me to the Mesothelioma Cancer site. It's really informative. Heather is an amazing woman who has beaten the odds and is sharing her story with the word. Please take the time to read her story and support her cause on September 26th.

MESOTHELIOMA AWARENESS DAY

SEPTEMBER 26TH, 2015

Be a Voice for the Victims



  • Every year around 3,000 people are diagnosed with mesothelioma, a deadly cancer caused by exposure to asbestos.
  • On average, they are given 10 months to live.
  • That’s 300 days.
  • 7,200 hours.
  • Now…


Imagine What 7,200
  • voices could do.
  • people spreading awareness.
  • people sharing a simple message that could save lives.
September 26th is Mesothelioma Awareness Day.
Please join me in spreading hope and be a voice for the victims.



So on September 26th, please Tweet, FB post or bring awareness to Mesothelioma on any social media you can. Thanks.....

Wednesday, September 2, 2015

What Is Holding You Back---IWSG

Insecure Writer's Support Group...What is holding you back?


Yay! It's the first Wednesday of the month and it's time for the Insecure Writer's Support Group posts. If you haven't heard of the group, pop over to the blog and check it out, then check out the Facebook group. It's a great group full of supportive people including our leader Alex J. Cavanaugh. Who continues to motivate us even in his busy published life.


We've even put together an anthology packed full of helpful hints about the publishing industry. It's available on Amazonfor the amazingly low price... of free! All you have to do is download it on your kindle app. (I'm in there, talking about editing.)

So..... on with my post!

I love writing! I love researching! I love editing and critiquing (check out my website), but something is holding me back...I'm terrified of the querying process. What if I blow my chances by saying something goofy in my letter. (I often say goofy things.) What if I spend so much time researching agents and editors that by the time I send the letters they have changed jobs? What if I trust the wrong person? (I've done that before.) Yes, I'm feeling a bit insecure today.  :( 

Any advice??? 


Are you looking for some inner peace too?

Wednesday, July 1, 2015

Insecure Writer's Support Group...Do You Put Up Walls?


Yay! It's the first Wednesday of the month and it's time for the Insecure Writer's Support Group posts. If you haven't heard of the group, pop over to the blog and check it out, then check out the Facebook group. It's a great group full of supportive people including our leader Alex J. Cavanaugh. Who continues to motivate us even in his busy published life.


We've even put together an anthology packed full of helpful hints about the publishing industry. It's available on Amazon for the amazingly low price... of free! All you have to do is download it on your kindle app. (I'm in there, talking about editing.)

So..... on with my post!

Do you put up walls? 

How many people know you are a writer? For a long time I was a closet writer, until I discovered one of my friends was a closet writer too. We both came out of the closet and started telling people we were writers. It's really scary at first. You know why, right? They are going to ask you the dreaded question... "So what books have you written?" Gulp! But you shouldn't gulp. Whether you have published a book or not you have written more than one I would suspect.  So, answer fearlessly...."I have written 777 books (or however many you really have written) and now I'm working on editing, revising, and submitting them to agents and publishing houses."  Do you see how strong that sounds? It takes a little of the scary away, I hope.


Do you use walls to hide yourself? Would  you rather be hidden inside your house creating new worlds than being outside experiencing this world?

When you push yourself to get out of your comfort zone you will have more voice for your characters and more genuine experiences for them. Personally, I would have a hard time writing about a place unless I had been to it. Research is great, don't get me wrong. I research the places I write about, even if I have been there or know them well.  I used to push myself to do things out of my comfort zone (helicopter ride over the Grand Canyon) to show my daughter I was capable of pushing myself. Now I do it because I know it makes me a better person and writer. So, don't hide behind a wall to keep safe, get out there and experience life!


Sometimes walls are put up because you or your character have been hurt. Finding a way to open that wall and let people in with help both you or your character have a more full life.
 

Walls are often put up to mark a territory. They show ownership and often wealth. When you are locking yourself or your character in a bubble of life, you or your character are getting a limited vision of the world.


But they can be put up as a warning to other that danger is ahead if you continue on this path. Sadly, sometimes people ignore those warnings.


Nature often provides us with walls. You know when you get that feeling in your gut that something feels wrong in a situation? That's Nature putting up a wall for you. It's up to you (or your character) whether you pay attention to the wall.


Crumbling walls aren't always a bad thing. As things in your life or your character's life change you need to knock down some walls and experience new things. They could be good, they might not be, but the only way to grow is through moving forward.


 So be prepared...


 to make some changes...


 push through some old walls...



 in search of new challenges.


 And perhaps...


you'll walk down a public path, beside the wall of an old castle with the person you can let all your walls down with.


And you'll learn from his wisdom that you must take chances to succeed.

Thanks for stopping by today. My pictures are all from my trip to England last month. The gentleman at the end is my inspiration, my hero, and my grandfather. I'm more free to be me with him than with anyone else in the world. I hope every one of you have someone that you can have no walls with.

Have a wonderful and safe Fourth of July!

Monday, June 29, 2015

And the Winner of George Green's Book Out of the Spotlight is...and Journal Your Way Through Troubled Times

 Sorry, if you didn't win a copy of George's book OUT OF THE SPOTLIGHT, you can still purchase it in paperback or Kindle versions on Amazon.

But....

Could you hop over to our (I'm speaking in a universal manner because everyone loves her) dear Robyn Campbell's blog and tell her she's a lovely woman, an amazing mother, an awesome writer, and a winner?
George's book is such an inspiration. Think about how your life has changed over the years. Have you had dramatic changes? Taking you from one extreme to another? How can you use that to make you or your writing stronger? How can that make you more compassionate? Or your character more compassionate? Your life experiences are things you can build on in your manuscripts. Yes, listening on other people's conversations is a great way to get dialogue and ideas, but your life is FULL of gems.

When I struggle with something I journal, to help me get through it. I'm struggling with something right now. I haven't been sleeping or eating well. I've been exercising a lot, but I think the only way I'm going to get through this is to write it out.

So please, pop over to Robyn's blog and then start journaling your life experiences so you have things for your characters to fall back on....and perhaps it will even help you through a tough spot.

((((HUGS))))

Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Attention All Baby Boomers! Out of the Spotlight by George Green Book Giveaway



I"m excited to share with you that one of my consulting clients, George Green, is going to kick off his, OUT OF THE SPOTLIGHT, book campaign on June 4th at 9 AM (Pacific Time) on Los Angeles radio station KRLA 870 AM.  He will be the guest of Dennis Prager. Almost every radio market has a Salem station in it. To find your local Salem Channel, Google Salem Radio Broadcasting.

George Green worked for KABC Radio starting in 1960. It was the first all talk format radio station. George worked his way up until he hit the top and became the President and General Manager. Under his leadership, KABC became one of the largest sales revenue stations of America’s seven-thousand properties, and a marketing machine that commanded an audience of over one-million listeners. In 1996 he left KABC and started his own media marketing company called George Green Enterprises.   

George believes   ‘You’re never too old to make things happen.’  Now, at age 84, he's setting his sights on being an author. You can pop over to his website to see all of his books. 




Have you ever wondered what happened to "stars" once their series ended or they were no longer in the limelight? 

Were you a Golden Girls fan? What about Different Strokes? Did you think the Sinatra family walked on the moon? What about the Reagan's? These are just a few of the fascinating people interviewed in George Green's book Out of the Spotlight. The interviews show how so many former stars have found a new spotlight in their lives.

Each interview includes a lovely drawing of the interview subject, a short bio, and then an interview focusing on where they are now. (Some of the people in the book have passed away.)

George has graciously offered to give away a copy of his book to one of my lucky readers, so make sure you leave a comment! Random.org will pick the winning comment on June 26th.  If you aren't the winner you can pop over to Amazon and purchase either the hardback copy or the paper back copy of OUT OF THE SPOTLIGHT.

Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Going Home






I'll be out of pocket for a few weeks. I'm going home... Any guesses???