Wednesday, January 6, 2016

ISWG--Looking For Love? Looking For Fiscal Responsibility? (I've got some answers to help you find a happier you in 2016.)

 Yay! It's the first Wednesday of the month and it's time for the Insecure Writer's Support Group posts. If you haven't heard of the group, pop over to the blog and check it out, then check out the Facebook group. It's a great group full of supportive people including our leader Alex J. Cavanaugh. Who continues to motivate us even in his busy published life.

My IWSG post today will hopefully help you become more happy and loved and financially stable in 2016.

I don't often rant about a particular book, BUT this is the best life changing book I've read EVER! The title makes you think it's only for people in love, but it can help you understand all the people you know better. I've been married for almost 30 years and reading this book showed me how to communicate and express love better to my husband and my adult daughter. If you are in a relationship, any kind of relationship....husbands & wives...husbands & husbands...wives & wives...boyfriend & girlfriend...parent & friends... boss & employee....any relationship can benefit from reading and studying this book. I had so many OMG moments as I read it.

Basically, we all have a language of love. Some people need quality time, others need gifts, others need their loved one to do things for them, and others need to have a physical relationship, and others need words of affirmation to feel loved.

If you were driving a car and the gas tank was empty, the car would not run. Well, relationships are the same...If your love "tank" is empty you won't work and your relationship will go stale and possibly end. So you need to find a way to fill up your "loved one's" love tank. This book will show you how to do it. (I did want to edit it because there are a lot of technical things that made me cringe.) 

I think this book is so amazing I bought two extra copies to give as Christmas presents. It's an easy read, it probably only took me three hours to read it. But I'm going to read it again and work on finding out what love language other people who are important to me have. It will make me a better wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend and more. 

I HIGHLY recommend you read The Five Love Languages this year it will help you improve all your relationships, if you put in the time and attention.

I've been listening to Dave Ramsey for years. If you want to get your finances in order you might want to start listening to his FREE podcasts. We've been living by his philosophies for many years, even before we knew about his programs or podcasts. When you grow up poor you want stuff, right? When you are intelligent you want to further your education, right? So you do things...borrowing money, buying things on credit because you want them, because you deserve are working hard at school...It's hard to see your friends who didn't go to school working and making you buy on credit.  Then you graduate with credit card debt and student loans that have to be paid back. (This is my story.) But even before we heard of Dave we set a goal of paying off all our debts as fast as possible. We started with the small bills, once they were gone we went to the next biggest bill until all of our student debt was gone. (We did all of that without Dave.)

Dave teaches you to become debt free....YOU HEARD ME...Debt free. Living in your own means is hard (unless you are wealthy), but when you do that and become debt free you will start to acquire wealth, if you make good choices.

Once you are debt free, you can be more generous than you ever thought possible and you will sleep  without worries.

I URGE you to download and listen to a few of Dave's podcasts. If you are ready to listen and to become debt free he can guide you.

In 2016, I want you to learn how to have a full tank of love and a big pile of money saved up because you are listening to Dave and getting debt free.

Happy New Year My Friends!


  1. Thanks so much for the recommendations, Sharon! I just checked and I can get 5 Love Languages as an e-book through my library. I'm going to check it out in the next day or two. And I highly recommend living debt free. It's so much less stressful. Happy New Year!

  2. Way back in 2001 I had a college course where The 5 Love Languages was our text. Did you know you can actually test kids and singles for love languages? There are links on the website. Had to do that with my littles. Very eye-opening.

  3. Great blog with wonderful tips. I love Dave too. He's so down-to-earth. Your review of this book makes me want to read it. Thanks for the info.

  4. Show me the money!
    I've read the Five Love Languages and agree it's a great book for everyone.

  5. Both sound great! It sounds like everyone could use at least one of these! We're good at living within our means but we can always get better! :)

  6. Happy New Year, Sharon! Glad you've found things that are working for you, and you want to share them.

  7. We do like that Alex dude and the Dave dude is pretty cool too. We are not big fans of rice & beans though! Happy 2916 to you!

  8. Thanks for some great advice on two very important things in everyone's lives. Hope 2016 is wonderful for you!

  9. Hi Shannon,

    Thank you for that advice. It seems most notable and I'm delighted that his book has such a positive impact on your life.

    I have a full tank of love, thank you. As for a big pile of money, that doesn't matter for I'm rich in my heart and rich in being blessed.

    Be well, dear Sharon. A peaceful, positive 2016 to you and your loved ones.


    Gary :)

  10. Hey, Sharon,

    Happy New Year! Hope you are healing well and had a wonderful holiday!

    Thanks for the recommendations. Definitely worth checking out. Who can't use more love and wealth... right?

    Today I posted pics of the loft! Hope you can drop by and take a look. Ugh... still so much work to do, but at least it is somewhat livable. LOL.


  11. Hi Sharon - what a great sounding book ... and I've definitely noted it. Also the fact about being careful with money holds us all in good stead ... take care and here's to a very happy 2016. Cheers Hilary

  12. Wow Sharon, thanks for all that info! I haven't heard of Dave, but I will go and listen to see what he's like. Thanks for dropping by my blog!

  13. This book sounds great. I'll have to check it out, Sharon!