(Are you self-confident about your salad?)
Today is day 19 of Arlee Bird's A-Z Challenge! Since I write for younger children and we're doing the ABC's, I thought I'd do The ABC's of A Good Friend (and throw in a few random pictures, because I have a bit of a camera habit).
Can you tell when someone is sincere or when they are two faced? Being sincere is an important quality in a friend. It's also an important quality in a critique partner or a Beta reader. You need your friends to be straight-up with you. You want people around you that are willing to share their hearts so that you will be willing to share your heart with them. Have you had a friend that you felt like you were always sharing/giving to them and they never offered the same support in return. (No names please!) It gets tiresome after a while. Being self-confident is important too. Having a friend who knows that she a valued human and has skilled is a plus. It will give her the edge. If you don't have self-confidence, hopefully hanging out with him or her will teach you how "act" like you do have self-confidence. Often it's what people see on the outside is what they believe to be true. You could be a gushing pile of nerves inside, but if you have a great "stage" presence no one will ever know. It's also nice to have friends who have self-respect and self-control. Those two things sometimes go hand in hand....
I hope you have lots of sincere friends to share your life with and super critique partners that show you respect by sharing their sincere critiques of your work, so you can improve your manuscripts. (And maybe a silly friend to eat a super salad with.)
Do you have another "S" word to share with me?