(Is there any friendship more unselfish than the one you have with your pet?)
Today is day 21 of Arlee Bird's A-Z Challenge! Since I write for younger children and we're doing the ABC's, I thought I'd do The ABC's of A Good Friend (and throw in a few random pictures, because I have a bit of a camera habit).
I hit on this before when we were talking about being giving or generous, but being unselfish really shows the quality of a person's character. Being around a person who needs to be the center of attention can wear you out. Not to mention it gets a bit boring. When a friend is going through a hard time, often they just need someone to listen to them. They don't need to hear about when you had a hard time too. Sometimes they do, but first they need to be heard. It gets tiresome if you and a friend get in a pattern of you always doing favors for them, but they never offer to do or are able to do a favor in return. It feels very lopsided. I'm not saying you can't ask your friends for help...I'm just saying you have to be willing to help in return. An unselfish friend is a fair friend. The two of you are equal partners in the friendship. Imagine if you gave your friend a wonderful Christmas (or whatever holiday is special to you) present every year and that friend never acknowledge that you gave her or him a gift, let alone bothered to even send you a card. However, they expected you to give one to them...it seems like eventually you would grow to resent that friendship or lack thereof. Am I right? You have to be unselfish and vested in your friends so that they can be unselfish and vested in you.
Do you have any other "U" words for me? This was a hard one!